We’re Back | LAH Reboot

IMG_4579 (2)Greetings Beloved!  It has been some time since my last blog post.  

The desire to post was there.

But the faith-filled action was not.  

It happens, right?  The time was well spent.  Believe me.

Thank God for for His grace and mercy.  These last 10 months have been a time of rest, restoration, discipleship, healing, revelation and extreme gratitude. God has revealed so much to me (even though I know it’s only a glimpse of what He truly has in store).  The following scripture divinely encapsulates this time period for me:

“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. Do not quench the Spirit.” I Thessalonians 5: 16-19 (NIV)

God has been doing a mighty work in me – preparing me for the next level of Love Abides Here.  Believing that He is going to use LAH to bring support, healing, faith and love to so many individuals – including YOU.❤️  

This is just the beginning.  More to come. But I’ll be honest.  I don’t really know what all of this looks like in the earthly realm.  My prayer is to NOT quench the Spirit and rely on God’s supernatural grace to have its way.

In the meantime, I wanted to share with you a pivotal moment in my healing journey from last year.  It’s another excerpt from my journal.

Sending prayers of strength, comfort, peace and love to YOU who has chosen to read this. ❤️

(DGH Journal Excerpt)

September 13, 2018 – This is my 2nd journal entry of the night.  Already “wrote” in my handwritten journal which I haven’t done in over a year!  Felt it was fitting today.  The day Hope was supposed to make her entrance.  These 9 months have shown me sooo much!  Even though I didn’t physically give birth to my child. 

I now feel like I’m giving birth to my calling. 

My purpose. 

What God created me to do.

It wasn’t an easy journey to get to this point. But now I know without a shadow of a doubt what I’m here for. To help and minister to women during pregnancy loss and prematurity. I have a heart for women in grief as well as the babies (as I sit here wearing my March of Dimes T-shirt).

It’s been a tear-filled evening. I wasn’t sure how this day was going to play out. I knew there would be a significant moment. But as the day went on, I ended up staying at home really doing nothing, I thought it was going to be a normal day. I had grand plans of taking this day for me – for reflection. Put together a blog post. Pamper myself. Instead, I was half working, half wasting time on social media. I did make a nice pot roast dinner. And then evening came. God told me what to do.

He wanted me to write in my journal and get on the Girlfriends Pray call. I haven’t done either of those activities in a year. But between the two, God had a theme. “He makes no mistakes. We are created for a reason. He has a plan”. The prayer leader read from Ephesians 2:8 along with a devotional about being God’s creation. It was meant for me.

On this day, 9/13/18. The day that I was supposed to meet Hope here on Earth. The living Hope gave me a new meaning sent from Heaven above.

This 9 months brought forth the clear and undeniable plan for my life. After being a bit out of sync this week leading up to today, I feel a sense of peace. There was a release of doubts, fears, emotions, disappointments, hurt, despair, loneliness, isolation (I’m balling right now 😭😭).

I can let it ALL go.

ALL of it.

Weeping has endured for a looong night. But joy has finally come. I feel it. Thank you Lord! 🙌🙌

Help me Lord to stay connected to you and your Word so I can walk in the plan you’ve laid out for me.

This day also reminded me of a song I hear on the radio titled “Living Hope” by Phil Wickham.  

No More Hope

(DGH Journal Excerpt)

February 21, 2018 – I can’t believe this is really happening again. Another miscarriage. 10 weeks, 6 days. No heartbeat. Baby is only measuring 8 weeks, 6 days.

I feel so defeated. I feel stupid. I feel embarrassed. I have no more hope. I mean, this was it. We heard the heartbeat just a few weeks ago. Dr B. said everything looked great. But something must’ve happened a few short days after that ultrasound. Hope was lost.

So here we are again.

Miscarriage #5.

43 years old.

I don’t think I have it in me to try again. This hurts. It hurts real bad. Just because we’ve been down this road before, doesn’t mean it gets any easier. Dr B. thinks we have another shot. R wants to try again. I actually looked at that pregnancy test in the closet this morning and wondered if we would be using it again. I had a feeling something was wrong with the pregnancy but I wanted to stay positive. We’ll leave it in God’s hands. I’m mad right now. But I’m not mad at God. He is in control. He is sovereign.  He has a plan and a purpose for my life.

When the Dr revealed the news, the first thing that came to mind was “Love Abides Here”. God allowed this to happen in order to fuel the need for the ministry. So this is how it’s supposed to take shape??  Launching the blog AFTER experiencing yet another pregnancy loss?? Your will be done Lord. Your will be done.

Loves Abides Here just kept replaying in my head after the ultrasound. I got so upset that I broke out in tears on the way home. I know I certainly didn’t envision it happening this way. I wanted that baby. She was going to be our other miracle baby. I was going to tell the world how God made it all possible after multiple miscarriages and for being 43. I had a testimony to share.

But I’m reminded that this isn’t about me.

As I was looking at the Evernote entry about seeing Hope for the first time, the clock showed 3:33. More number sequences. Definitely a theme for this year. Haven’t seen that one yet though. But a quick internet search revealed that it has to do with the trinity. Father, Son and Holy Spirit. They are all with me. One true God. ❤

Welcome Beloved

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You’re here. Thank you for stopping by. You are welcome here with open arms. Love and grace are offered here. This is a safe place. LOVE ABIDES HERE

You have found your way to this site for a number of reasons. You have suffered a pregnancy loss – be it recent or in the past. You’re ready to try getting pregnant again but you’re afraid that you’ll lose another baby.  You want to support a friend or loved one who has experienced pregnancy loss but don’t know how. You’re just curious. You are looking for encouragement. You want to know that you are not alone. 

LOVE ABIDES HERE was created in response to the very limited online resources available to women who have experienced early pregnancy loss.  Since miscarriage is so common, why are there limited resources??  It doesn’t make sense – at all. This is certainly not a site where scientific information or medical advice will be doled out. Nope. It will offer a few different paths. It’s a personal journal where Dee Greene Hill shares her story about her multiple miscarriages as well as the complications surrounding her pregnancies.  In sharing her very lengthy maternal journey, she hopes that it will help other women who are dealing with similar experiences.

There will also be lots of links to some great information that you may find useful (check out the Resource Center for that).  Do you sometimes feel like you’re not getting as much information as you need from medical professionals? There are alternatives that we’ll share.  Ultimately, the site is providing a voice to women who are suffering in silence or unable to speak openly about the topic of miscarriage. Sometimes people find it hard to even say the word.  Let’s say it together. M-I-S-C-A-R-R-I-A-G-E. It’s ok to say it. If you’ve had a miscarriage, it’s ok to say that you’ve had one out loud. You are NOT abnormal. It doesn’t make you any less of a woman for having one.  Unfortunately, miscarriage happens. To A LOT of women. So, why not start talking about it? This topic has been viewed as taboo for way too long. We want to debunk the myths and shatter the stigma surrounding miscarriage – FOR GOOD.

This site will also talk about the complications around why miscarriage happens as well as how you can attempt to heal from it after it happens.  You may not be able to share your hurt, despair, brokenness, grief and anxiety to others because they simply don’t understand. We are here to shed light on these dark, silent journeys that so many women have faced and will continue to face for years to come.  But, hopefully it doesn’t have to continue to be dark and silent.  If society starts to truly understand how deeply pregnancy loss affects women (and men) and extend love when it’s needed most, healing can happen.  Shame and embarrassment can be erased. In the meantime, we offer this space as a place where LOVE abides.  

The world loves to shout about success and good fortune, but we seldom speak of our secret sorrows.  It’s time to break the silence and allow women the freedom to tell their stories.  #metoo #loveabideshere